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Wednesday, April 13, 2005

The Hassle-free Dating Plan

by: Becky Mentyra

The trials and tribulations of dating make for good humor and interesting dinner time stories! Doubling your dating pleasure starts with prioritizing the objectives of the date.

More single men and women could get more out of their dating if they applied a failsafe approach to the process.

While there aren't any rules to dating, here are a few pointers to enhance the dating excitement and thwart the perils of dating the wrong prospects.


Devise a simple dating plan. Meeting singles through personal ads, online dating sites and in the bar scene can expose you to a small percentage of undesirables. To avoid wasting your time, conduct thorough phone interviews with your prospective dates. Invest five to 10 hours of phone dating time first.

Ask your prospective date the following questions: where they work, reside, substance abuse habits and marital status. These are important questions to inquire if you are planning a date. Great time and energy can be saved by conducting a brief "interview". This helps both of you to know and understand each other.

Make your first date simple. Prior to your date, set a dating schedule... a minimum of an hour to three hours is ideal. A failsafe dating plan will assure the both of you are not obligated or disappointed to prolong a date that may not be going well for either party. Moreover, it avoids the awkwardness of ending the date soon.

Choose a cool dating location. Select a geographically convenient location for the both of you. Try to find an intimate and quiet public place but avoid the crowded bar scene because it will not do much for the first dating encounter if you can't hear each other talking!

Enforce dating security and safety. Whether you are a male or female, notify a close friend about where you plan to go on your date. Remember, to leave your date's contact information.

Make a dating pledge. Plan to go Dutch to alleviate any hard feelings so that no one bears the sole financial obligation of the date.

Finally, remember that dating is a numbers game. Every date will bring you that much closer to finding that special person who you will spend the rest of your life with!
What are you waiting for? Get cracking!

About The Author


Becky Mentyra is the dating specialist & webmaster of UM Dating Guide which is a resource for singles looking for their life partner. Visit her site for more dating tips, articles and advice: http://www.umdating.com

If You Really Need A Dating Quiz, Maybe You Shouldn't Be Dating

Q. My boyfriend failed a dating quiz. Should I dump him?

A. If you're the type that hates to be dumped, then you should dump him before he finds out that you even asked this question. If you put so much value on a dating quiz that you're willing to break off a relationship because someone "failed" it, then maybe you're not ready for dating yet.

You see, a dating quiz is written for entertainment purposes only. I'm not trying to be sexist here, but they are usually written for girls and young woman, and they are designed to prey upon your natural insecurities. They are biased towards some unrealistic viewpoint of what the perfect partner is and the perfect partner doesn't exist.

I remember a dating quiz that asked if my girlfriend reached over to unlock the driver's door after I let her into the passenger door. If I answered "Yes" then she would make a perfect wife. If I answered "No" then I should run away!

Come on, get real. If that's all it took to be a perfect wife there would never be any divorces.

My point, at the risk of repeating myself, is that a dating quiz shouldn't be taken seriously. In fact, there is a good chance that they shouldn't be taken at all. Your common sense knows whether or not you are dating someone who is good or bad for you. You don't need some overworked writer, working against a deadline to fill up some white space in a magazine, or on a web site, to tell you whether or not you should dump someone on the basis of your answers to a dating quiz. Not if you're anyone who is worth dating, that is.

About The Author


Brian Fong
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